the talk is about parenting and its also closely related about life...
ok it goes like this...
we cant assume that life is very smooth..this one everyone also knows about it...but usually humans are really really stubborn...they are really cant get the fact right and just live life pondering about that life is going to be smooth for them and nothing is going to get in their way...its like saying about i will go to uni after my army then i will work a specific job and i will get a manger place when i work in this line for 5 years...
plans are plans...everything will changes.... so its really not practical to like thinks that life will goes on smoothly.....
we must also accept the fact of life is unfair...life is unfair....if life is fair then it will be very weird as in every single person in the world will get what they have then wont it be a disaster... cause every one would be what they should be cause they have everything in life.... then they wont do alot of times already....they will be much of a problem...
sometime we will feels that i have done alot of preparations and things for a certain thing but it turns out like shit and always feels that others puts in much lesser things and gets the credits....then wont we be angry...for mi i really felt this way before cause it happened many things during work...
but we must accept that the input doesnt mean that it will produce the same output/workdone...
accept this fact !
IF NOTHING OF YOUR PLANS IS WORKING THEN DO SOMETHING ELSE
therefore in life we must find our true self....and we must have our corevalue...core values are things that made up u...
example:
- ur belief/religion
- ur space/hobbies
- ur family
- ur heart/ur feelings
- ur goals
sometime u have to like explore the things in life...kept of going changes to ur life to suit the current situations so that u can live life better for urself...
once a great men said:
"A unexaimed life is not worth living..."
his meaning was if u just dont care about ur life and just let everything be what it is , and dont find a meaning to ur life.....then thge life u living now is not worth living....i feels that the reader also try to say that if u just enjoy ur life to the fullness and dont care about what life is then its also no meaning to it...
life is also mainly due with RESILIENCE and creating a CLOSENESS with the people around u is like dealing with the downs of life and not being affected by it ...its like a rubber band returned to its original shape after stretching it...
Things that u will face in life are things like:
- criticism
- problem
- blows/total breakdown
- hurts
for example: typing a face to face speech to a sms then it will changes the meaning of it cause its all in text and it doesnt have tone...its like one same thing but its have different meaning !
its easy to get angry but its also that we have to learn how to control our own anger...
i admit that i this period of time quite hot tempered because of some lazy people at work that really drive mi up my ass ! but thankfully now i am in control of everything...
then in every quarrel we have to take note that we mustnt alway want to win...cause sometime its no point winning the argue....
IF THINGS AINT BROKEN DONT FIXED IT YET, so i feels that i should just you know just burst my anger and feels that i should just be patient and to wait for things to work out...
its good to say that we also mustn't have everything in the world and out of every situation it also apply to friendship...
sometime expect too much from people and that why people will isolate u...its like sucking everyone dry without knowing it....its selfish of a person !
so it important to accept the help from others ...if not then no one can help u le !
and we must work on Closeness of others
Things that affect closeness is:
- Appreciations of ur friend and loved ones
- Having fun and good time with them
- Knowing whats people like about u/ur personality u urself
- Caring for others.
but its some amazing about love...its so simple yet complicated..its being there for each other when one needs help...there is nothing to say about being selfish or what it all the trust u have u in that friend that will go one more mile for you without anything in return...
thats what i feels so amazing about life !
be positive and accept life and live life as what it is....
one last quotation:
"IF YOU KEEP ON DOING WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS DONE,YOU WILL KEEP ON GETTING WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS GOT"
its important to move on in life !
***woa spend 2 hours on this entry ...goodness !***
hope tmw will be a smooth day for mi...making over darren's car !
3 comments:
Agree that an unreflected life is a life not worth living for. Can't remember who was the original person who said this. Of course over reflecting is bad, but i think most Singaporeans tend not to reflect instead of over reflect. Also, there must be a healthy yardstick when one reflect. Because some people will reflect and think that the whole world owe them a lot. My reflection this week is about food prices. So many people are hungry and we in the affluent world waste food. It is really sinful. Today i ate a plate of fried rice and i left with about 3-4 spoon full. I asked for a plastic bag and pack home :)
its also important to reflect one's action and speech and a conduct of a person ..i really feels that its really most important then to just reflect about your life and not as a person...cause all source of happiness of sadness comes form within and not without anything...
i remember, if i am not wrong, the person who said 'an unreflected life is a life not worth living' is Scott Peck. The author of 'The Road Less Traveled'.
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